New Year New Me (31-day challenge)

Leaders do not wait for someone else to create a path that they could follow. They themselves pave the path for others to follow. Leaders start with themselves. They change first in order to inspire others to change. They challenge themselves to become their best selves, so that others can be challenged to reach their own potential. You might have been the follower all your life. Today is the day to awaken the leader within. | Ela, Grand Cru Experience

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Do you want to kickass New Year?

Are you tired of not following through with your New Year’s resolutions?

Do you want to accomplish your goals and be proud of yourself?

Do you fear that you will end up feeling stuck, again?

Join my free 31-day-challenge New Year New Me to get ready to a kickass New Year. Each day there will be an assignment that will take you about 10-15 minutes to complete. Day after day you will build the momentum and the will power to follow through with your goals for New Year.

After this challenge you will know what you want and WHY you want it, and you will be amazed how tiny changes may impact your daily life. The strongest your WHY, the more empowered you will feel to follow through. Let’s enter the New Year in the most powerful state we can. Remember, when you take a first step – even a tiny one, you start building a momentum, and the more momentum you have, the more action you take and the closer it gets you to the improvements you want to see in your life.

Day 1-Who Are You Really?

“I am…”

How would you finish this sentence?
Who are you?
Who do you think you are?
Who others want you to be?
Who do you want to become?
What is the distance between the person you are and the person you want to become?
How could you close that gap?

Working on yourself is a constant and never ending process, and today you take a first step towards a life that you deserve. Congratulations!

Day 2 -Your Emotional Home

Let’s have a look at emotions you feel most often.

Split a page in two columns; on the left write ‘empowering emotions’, and on the right – ‘disempowering emotions’. Set up a timer for 3 minutes and write as many emotions as you can remember you experienced in the last week. Underline those emotions you feel on a daily basis.

Which ones are they?

This is your ‘emotional home’, a place where you go back to most often; it is a place where you may feel safe, even if those emotions do not empower you. Discovering your emotional home will help you understand yourself better and it will give you power to control your emotional reaction, instead of reacting on auto-pilot.

Now look at the emotions you underlined – those are the emotions you feel daily. Are they serving you? If not, what would you like to feel instead?

Day 3 – Language

How do How do you talk to yourself when you are alone?
Which words do you use most often?
How do you call yourself?
Would you talk this way to your best friend, your beloved ones, your parent or your child?
How could you be more gentle with yourself?

There is a simple exercise I often recommend to my clients when they feel angry or disappointed with themselves. Talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend. Use words you would use if you were talking to person you love and respect. The more you practice treating yourself good, the more often you will praise yourself and the less often you will beat yourself up; no matter what is going on in your life, you will become your biggest supporter

Day 4 – Focus

What do you focus on most often during the day?
Is it something that is there, or something that is missing?
Is it something you want, or something you do not want?
Something that you can control, or something that is out of your control?
Which way of thinking serves you best?

Remember, whether you think about what you want or what you do not want, you attract that very thing or experience. If you want to accomplish your outcomes, you must train yourself in focusing on what you want so that you can attract all that you desire the most.

If you want to be financially free, look for thoughts that make you feel good about money and feel appreciation for the money you currently have. If you want to be in a loving relationship, appreciate all the good you have in all your current relationships.

Day 5 – Meaning

The meaning you give to your experience create that experience. It is shaped by the words you use and your focus, as well as the state of your body.

Think of daily situations, such as an evening chat with your partner, being stuck in traffic or your current financial situation:

what is the difference in the meaning you give them when you are in great mood vs when you are exhausted after a difficult day?
How could you improve that?

Day 6 – You are a creator

People tend to put the responsibility for how they feel on others.

‘He said this and now I feel bad’, or ‘she didn’t do this and now I am angry’.

If you really think about the source of your feelings, they have nothing to do with any other person – they are your own reactions to your past experiences, fears or disappointments. The person that triggered you just brought your attention to those areas that need healing.

Write down some of the comments you say regarding area of your life that is not as you wish it to be; observe who, according to you, is responsible for it.

Such as in example: ‘He doesn’t bring me flowers anymore’, or ‘she doesn’t dress up for me anymore’ – it is so easy to blame that other person for our own unhappiness in the relationship. But if you remember that you are the creator of your own experience, you will take responsibility for your life and create a life you want. You have the power to do it.

Day 7 – The Power Of The Routine

Write down in your journal all the steps of your morning routine, and when finished, focus on your evening routine. Write down every little thing you do and how does it make you feel.

Do you start your day with snoozing the alarm or do you get up happy to start a new day?
Do you start your day with a gratitude and excitement for what this new day is going to bring, or do you get up angry and criticising every little thing that comes your way?
Do you go to bed being grateful for everything that happened, or do you run the negative situations over and over in your head instead?

When you write down your morning and evening steps, try not to judge yourself, just write them down so that you see clearly how your daily habits look like right now.

Day 8 – Perfect Morning

Today I would like to invite you to read your yesterday’s notes and evaluate, whether these habits serve you or not. If not, what little change could you introduce to your morning or evening routine that would make you feel better?

You could also write a short description of ‘your perfect morning’ or ‘your perfect evening’ (or both) – and write down how would you like your perfect morning and evening routine to look like.

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Day 9 – Love Yourself

How do you feel when you see yourself in the mirror?
What do you like in you?
What would you like to love more?

I would like to invite you to brainstorm the ways you could honour yourself and appreciate you more. You do not have to have a perfect body (no one is perfect!) and you do not need to achieve all your life dreams to love, accept and respect yourself.

Express gratitude for your body and feel good with who you are and what you have accomplished so far.

Day 10 – What Is Love?

What love means to you?
How do you want to be loved?
What needs to happen so that you feel loved?
When do you feel most loved?
Who do you love?
Who loves you?
How can you express love in the most beautiful way – to yourself, your loved ones, other people, the world?

Day 11 – Perfect Partner

If you could describe a perfect partner for you, who would they be?
How would they make you feel?
What moments would you share together?
When you see clearly the image of your perfect partner, what do you think would be their perfect partner?
You could make a list of qualities of their perfect partner – are you the person they are looking for?

You see, to attract a partner of your dreams, you must take care of yourself first and become the person who would be a dream partner to your perfect partner.

Which parts of you could you heal, what could you let go, so that you become the best version of yourself?

Day 12 – Beliefs About Love

Love is…
Women are…
Men are..
Relationship is…
Marriage is…
I would never…
He / she always….

I would like to invite you to spend about 10 minutes on finishing the above sentence stems, writing at least five first thoughts that come to your mind when you read them.

When you have them in front of your eyes, read them out loud.

Which of these beliefs serve you?

Which are disempowering and keep you away from a happy and loving relationship?

Choose 3-5 of them that you no longer wish to be thinking, and transform them into your new beliefs. I encourage you to write them down and pin them somewhere in your eyesight (near your desk or stick them to your bathroom mirror) and read them as often as you can. You will be amazed how quickly you can transform your mind.

Day 13 – Everything Is Possible

Think of the most passionate, sensual and romantic moments of your life.

What would you be willing to do to experience these moments again?
What prevented you from having this level of passion with your lover?
What could you change now in order to create more moments like that?

Day 14 – Lover’s Needs

A primary need for every human being is to be loved and to be enough for our partner. When you enter a relationship you look to meet certain needs, so that you can feel loved and give even more love.

According to John Gray, women and men have different needs, and misunderstanding those needs often leads to difficulties in a relationship. Women need to receive caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance, while men need to receive trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and encouragement.

If you think of your partner (or previous partner, if you are single currently), think how many of their needs do you meet on a regular basis? What could you do to better meet their needs and show them love the way they want to be loved?

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Day 15 – Vision Of Ideal Relationship

What is your vision of a perfect relationship?

Think of what it is that you really want and how you want to experience togetherness with your significant other. Write down a vision of your ideal relationship and if you want to bring your loving energy to a next level, read that vision at least once a day for the next 21 days, and let yourself feel incredible about the love life you create for yourself.

Day 16 – Money, money, money

Close your eyes and say the word ‘money’ out loud – how do you feel when you say it? What are three most intense emotions you feel when you repeat the word ‘money’ over and over again?

Try to remember the incident from your past, probably your childhood, which these emotions are related to. What happened? Who was there? What were they saying about money?

Write down their point of view and compare it with what you believe in now.

Day 17 – Money Beliefs

What do you tell yourself about money most frequently?

Do you say things like ‘it is hard to get money’, or ‘rich people are bad’, or ‘it is not fair they are celebrating their success when I am still struggling financially’? Are your thoughts about money positive or negative?

Do you want them to stay this way? Pick three of your negative beliefs and write new beliefs that will empower you. Repeat them as often as you can.

Day 18 – Victories

What are the victories that make you proud?

Think of the situations from your past, when you didn’t know how to achieve something but you found a way. Perhaps you didn’t have a job and you found new one – what did you do differently? Remind yourself your own victories, and good choices that made you feel proud of yourself.

What else could you be proud of?

Day 19 – Make Space For Money

Take your wallet out – what do you have inside? Is there space for money and cards, or it is full of used tickets from previous months? Spend 5 minutes right now and throw away what is no longer needed. In addition, go through all your paid subscriptions. Which of them do you really need and use, and which ones could be cancelled? Perhaps there is another plan that better fits your needs?

Day 20 – Financial Affairs

How much money do you really spend? How much do you need to feel financially secure?

So many people think they need hundreds of thousands of € ($,£) to have a life they want, or they worry they do not have enough money to raise the standard of life. However, we really need less than we think we need to live a life that we want. There is a power in numbers.

I would like to invite you to make a list of everything you spend your money on and see what the real number is. Then, make a list of everything you would like to have and do in your everyday life, and see the number.

Why is it important for you to close that gap?

Day 21 – Money Date

Have you ever had a date with your money?
Do you monitor your earnings, spending and savings?
How often do you do it?

I would like to invite you to schedule a monthly money date, which could allow you to regularly monitor your money. This is a great way to feel gratitude for the money you have, as well as it may impact your future decisions. Remember, that the more you measure your finances, the better you can manage them.

Enjoy your money date!

Day 22 – Your Vision Of Your Financial Freedom

Create a vision of your perfect financial situation – how would you feel if you could afford everything you need and want? What different decision you would make? Why is it important for you to create a financial abundance? Why do you deserve it? How could you impact the world and other people if you had all the money you desire?

Day 23 – Abundance Affirmations

I would like to invite you to write down your beliefs about money, abundance, success and prosperity. Do they serve you or not? Are there any beliefs that limit the flow of abundance into your life?

For each of those limiting beliefs write 1-2 empowering affirmations (remember to write them in present tense, focusing on the positive side of what you want). Repeat them at least once per day for the next 21 days.

Day 24 – Areas Of Life

If you could think of areas of your life that are important to you, what would they be?

How do you feel about your:

(1) body, vitality and health?

(2) romantic relationship?

(3) family, other connections and friends?

(4) career and business?

(5) money and financial affairs?

(6) spirituality, inner balance and emotions?

Which of these areas are working the way you want them to work, and which of them require more attention?